How many people does it take to transform a NATION?
How many people does it take to turn around a CITY?
How many people does it take to revitalize a NEIGHBORHOOD?
Honestly, here at King’s Ransom Foundation, we actually DO think about these questions… and how we can shine God’s light more brightly in EVERY corner of the world. So, as we contemplate this “global” vision, it got me thinking: How many people DOES it actually take to implement a lasting change?
Usually, when I get these big, existential questions in my head, I go to someone a LOT smarter than me for answers. So, I went all the way to the TOP… by opening my Bible and taking a look at the organizations GOD ordained to influence the world.
The Original “Power Couple”
The first was a man and his wife team: Adam and Eve. Think about that: The FIRST world-changing organization God ordained… was a married couple. Today, we’d call them a “power couple.” Imagine those dynamic husband-and-wife duos when you hear that expression… and Adam and Eve were the prototype!
Nothing is more powerful than a married couple with unified dreams, goals, and vision. Each brings strengths and perspective to the table, but their union makes them truly powerful. You’d be surprised by the amazing power in agreement.
Amos 3:3 says: “How can two walk together unless they be agreed?” Then Ecclesiastes 4 says, “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
However, the most powerful testament can be found in the words of Jesus: “Again I say unto you, ‘That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.’”
When married couples unify around a God-given vision for change, they become unstoppable. So it makes sense, God’s enemy would work overtime to keep the parties in a marriage from agreeing upon a unified vision.
Dream Team Under Attack
Over the last 50 years, I’ve seen a steady assault on the institution of marriage; but like every other attack on godly values in our culture, it has seemed to accelerate in the last few years. If you attend two weddings this year, chances are, one of them will end in divorce. It’s easy to become jaded to that statistic. After all, it’s been in play since the 1970s! But, if you stop and think about it for a minute, it’s positively staggering. This means HALF of your kids’ friends will grow up in a broken home… along with all the accompanying trauma and hurt.
But even couples who DO stay together, live their lives under attack. People who aren’t taught to resolve conflict, live in a constant pressure-cooker of conflict. Those who aren’t taught to honor and cherish their spouse, spend their adult lives mired in hurt feelings and unfulfilled expectations. Even people who genuinely love each other – but have different goals and priorities – go through life without making any impact outside of their own backyards!
And this doesn’t even account for the couples who only have self-serving goals.
The highlight of my workday is the time I set aside to call our donors. Most of the time, I end the call by praying for the other person – and four times out of five, they ask me to pray for their marriage! Why? Because, sometimes, marriage hurts. Marriages are made up of two flawed people with their own needs, values, and emotions. Often, we hurt the ones closest to us, the MOST; we say hurtful things, make selfish choices or just live our lives without any consideration for that other person.
But it’s not just us! That same spirit of division – trying to tear our nation into pieces along political, racial, religious, and economic lines – also comes into play in our marriages. And regardless of the scenario, bottom line, this discord separates us from each other.
If we can’t get our marriages aligned around a common vision, the world will continue spinning with its needs unmet… starting with our kids, and extending to the poor and needy worldwide. After all, if we’re not even taking care of our OWN families, what chance do we have of making a difference for someone ELSE?!
So, what can we DO about it?
Taking Action For Unity At Home
First, I’m not a marriage counselor or expert. In fact, depending on the day, you might say I’m a downright lousy husband! However, I HAVE managed to pick up a few things over the years to help me build a 20-year marriage around two strong-willed people. It all boils down to putting what’s best for the marriage ahead of your own agenda.
If your goals and priorities focus on fulfilling your ambitions or making you more comfortable, without taking your spouse or kids into consideration, it might be time to rethink those goals and priorities. Jesus said, “Greater love has no man than this: that he lay down his life for his friends.” That does not only mean taking a bullet for your buddy, but laying down your PERSONAL agenda to serve the needs of those around you. Even noble goals, like pastoring a church, can ruin a family, if the ministry takes priority over caring for your spouse and children. I know… and have actually seen it happen!
Now, that doesn’t mean you need to be a doormat for your spouse, but it does mean ensuring your spouse is on board with where you’re headed. You need to spend time, during the dating process, to be assured your objectives in life align. And while it may sound cold and clinical, it will save you a lifetime of frustration and heartache! That’s why I don’t encourage anyone to get married, until they are clear about their OWN identity, purpose, and mission in life.
At the same time, if you’re already married, it may take multiple sit-downs to figure out an arrangement where everyone’s needs are met fairly in the relationship – without pouting and manipulation. Find a goal you can both support.
What Does This Have To Do With Charity?
So, what does ANY of this have to do with our mission at King’s Ransom Foundation?! Great question… and one with a possibly surprising answer. As we circle back around to the original “power couple” premise, it all began with a single idea: UNITY.
The power of “together” can change not only YOUR world but THE world! However, if you and your spouse find it difficult (or a real-life “Mission: Impossible”) to come together in support of a common goal, take heart. We will discuss the exact “HOW” of this in part 2 of this article!
And in the meantime, you can open the lines of communication – start small, with a discussion just about the IDEA of charitable support. Can you simply agree on the notion of giving? What needs do you see in YOUR world? Has God touched your heart with a particular story, cause or mission? Take a look at our homepage, at KingsRansom.org, if you need inspiration or to ignite a conversation… remembering, “TOGETHER” can literally work miracles!